I reject gender ideology. Every other gay man should too. Here’s why:
Sexuality is solely sex based. Sex is an immutable characteristic, hard-coded into the DNA of every human.
Gender ideology seeks to blur the line between sexual expression (gender) and biological sex itself. This conflation erodes the meaning of sexuality and opens the door to the dangerous interpretation that homosexuality is a choice. If a woman can choose to become a man, and men liking men is gay, we could have simply enjoyed romantic relations with “manly” women all along.
Don’t get me wrong; I have deep sympathy for individuals led to believe they were “born into the wrong body.” Self-rejection is not lost on me as a gay man. I would argue nearly every homosexual person, while journeying toward self-acceptance, has yearned to be different. We wanted to be “normal.” We wanted to be heterosexual.
The difference between trans-identified people and homosexuals lies in the solution. We learn to accept reality; they seek to defy it. Gay people embrace what cannot change, while “trans” people are taught to reject their bodies in pursuit of an impossible fiction.
Unfortunately, society now frequently treats self-selected gender and biological sex interchangeably. This pressures gay men to accept females into our dating pools, our sex lives, and the very definition of homosexuality. Females calling themselves “gay men” pollute our apps. We are told to embrace the “bonus hole.” Society now labels exclusive attraction to the male body as a “genital preference” or transphobia.
Rejecting this homophobic intrusion is increasingly difficult. Legal challenges force gay bars, resorts, and experiences to either shut down or bend a knee to the gender delusion—a gross violation of male homosexual boundaries.
Capitalism compounds this erasure. Organizations actively recruit all “queer” people into formerly gay male exclusive spaces. National media manipulates the perception of gay people by inventing acronyms like “LGBTQ+,” creating a false sense of shared ideals even though gender ideology is antithetical to sexuality. Activist organizations, desperate to keep funds flowing, have pivoted from gay issues to the next progressive debate: gender. They hijacked the goodwill and social credit gay people built.
In my mid-30s, I am fortunate. I was born at the tail end of the gay rights movement, but early enough to avoid the gender contagion. I have been married for a decade—an opportunity denied to countless men before me. I largely enjoy the same freedoms as any other American. So, why do I care?
I ache for the older generations who suffered social persecution, brutality, and the inability to live honest lives. Witnessing this sharp reversal of what it means to be a gay man must feel like a slap in the face. I cannot fathom the struggles of the decades preceding mine.
I also grieve for younger gays. Coming to terms with homosexuality is already a painful burden, one that too often ends in suicide. Now, this struggle is compounded by a dangerous lie: that exclusive, same-sex attraction is “transphobic.” Social media teaches boys that they must be sexually accepting of females, but no amount of hormones or franken-surgeries will turn a female into a male. This leaves young gay men in limbo. By insisting that females can be gay men, gender ideology steals the very sense of belonging that is essential for self-acceptance.
As gay men, we must collectively protect and reclaim homosexuality. You need not become a radical activist, but do not remain silent. Defend our sexuality. Correct misguided statements from friends and family. Support younger generations; show them they are not alone in their exclusive, same-sex attraction. Listen to our elders and learn from their perspectives.
If not for others, fight selfishly to preserve your own sexuality. Inaction re-opens the door to conversion therapy, criminalization, and persecution. I respect myself as a gay man. Can you say the same?
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